09.10.09
How I learned to stop worrying and start loving feedback
This month marks my 5-year anniversary as a Toastmaster member. I’ve attended regularly in both St. Paul MN and my home town.
Coincidentally, I’ve had two “corrections” by colleagues this week. In both cases, I accepted the evaluative correction gracefully, without the defensiveness or internal churning that I have experienced in my past. Both colleagues meant well, and their suggestions were helpful.
It never used to be that way. Evaluation by anyone would send me into an emotional tailspin. I think it is the even-tempered evaluation method of Toastmasters, dosed out over 200+ meetings, that has helped me to accept any feedback calmly and give feedback kindly and thoroughly.
An unofficial Toastmaster motto is, “Nobody is a perfect presenter.” Its corollary is, “Nobody is a perfect evaluator.” The format for Toastmaster evaluation is “praise/positive suggestions/praise.” I’m no longer afraid to give or get evaluations because I view the process as necessary and helpful.
09.01.09
BNI (Business Networking International): Givers gain
Yesterday, I visited my first BNI meeting and was very impressed. (Full disclosure: This meeting was chaired by my son, Bruce Sherry, who is its President in Anchorage, Alaska, so my comments may not be completely impartial.)
What impressed me was the group’s energy focused on helping each member get new business by learning more about the businesses represented by each member. There were several opportunities for each individual to speak about his or her own business; of course, some people were better at their marketing pitches than others. However, if members were to listen carefully to the best speakers and try to copy them, they would learn not only marketing skills but also public speaking skills.
The phrase “Givers gain” is not just lip service in this organization. The focus of the meeting I attended was on how each member can provide referrals for other members. This networking principle would help everyone in any networking situation; the best networkers are those who come to the networking event thinking, “How can I help you?” rather than “How can you help me?”
Of course, BNI costs money, but many at this meeting mentioned that they had recouped their annual fee in a few months through referrals from the club. Learn more about how this works at the BNI site.
I was surprised to learn that not everyone in BNI owns their own business; in Bruce’s group, the vice president is the marketing director of a local medical clinic. I was glad to learn of yet another resource for networking, one that is possibly more focused and structured than others I have attended.
08.27.09
I believe in the Gallup Poll’s StrengthsFinder 2.0
I have to admit that when I needed to take the Gallup Poll’s StrengthsFinder 2.0 skills assessment prior to teaching a resume class for people who had been unemployed for months, I was skeptical, even cynical, about the results. I had completed many assessments in my career (even though I had the same MyersBriggs profile as the CEO of 3M in 1989, I didn’t get hired there). What would one more assessment do for me?
Well, I was wrong. I took StrengthsFinder online; the code is in the back of the book, which I ordered from Amazon for about $13. I received a detailed explanation of my five top strengths that felt like the writer had known me all my life. I had always thought my insatiable desire to learn was kind of “nerdy”; after reading the analysis of “Learner,” I discovered ways to highlight that strength in my resume/marketing materials.
What was most interesting, though, was to compare the results of my students who had the same strengths as I did. Their detailed analysis of, say, the strength of Responsibility was totally different than mine. StrengthsFinder is clearly a sophisticated tool that captures and highlights individual differences.
The best part was to work one-on-one with my students rebuilding their resumes after receiving their assessments. One woman had been apologetic about her work history, speaking negatively about its apparent incoherence. We wrote out her five strengths on the top of her draft and quickly identified how her three separate career moves demonstrated increasing responsibility and growth within her five strengths. Her shoulders relaxed and she started to smile more in class.
The theory behind StrengthsFinder 2.0 is that most training focuses on improving our weaknesses. That’s all well and good, but this assessment suggests that we also identify our strengths, demonstrate them to our potential employers/clients, and focus on building our careers on our strengths. That makes a lot of sense to me.
07.31.09
Wolfram alpha computational knowledge engine
Check out a new resource on the Internet: www.wolframalpha.com, a computational knowledge engine that quickly returns a lot of information on any topic you throw at it.
I typed in “Emma,” my dog’s name. I found out that Emma is the top female name for US births, with 18,587 people given that name each year (based on 2008 births). The average person named Emma is 7 years old. The frequency of naming children “Emma” was lowest in the 1970s, highest in the 1880s, and headed up in this decade.
Who knew?
Imagine how useful this engine might be for important questions! To quote the site:
“Wolfram|Alpha’s long-term goal is to make all systematic knowledge immediately computable and accessible to everyone. We aim to collect and curate all objective data; implement every known model, method, and algorithm; and make it possible to compute whatever can be computed about anything. Our goal is to build on the achievements of science and other systematizations of knowledge to provide a single source that can be relied on by everyone for definitive answers to factual queries.”
This site would be very useful in prewriting, for example. You could do quick research on your topic, avoiding having to open a lot of Google links.
Thanks to Camille Walker for the tip to look at Wolfram Alpha’s site.
07.17.09
Banished words
Sick of hearing how every company in the country is “green”? Don’t even have enough money for a “staycation”? Don’t give a hoot about your “carbon footprint”? Then visit Lake Superior State University’s 2009 List of Banished Words. All three of the terms that I put in quotation marks above are now officially banned, along with “maverick” and “first dude.”
For the last 34 years, LSSU has published an annual “List of Words to Be Banished from the Queen’s English for Mis-use, Over-use, and General Uselessness.”
Link to their site and add your own comments about the list of banished cliches.
07.15.09
My July newsletter
Do you know the latest 100 words in Merriam Webster? Or have you always longed to be a certified member of the Word Police? Learn more about these matters and about Plain Language and Six-Word Memoirs in my July newsletter.
Get your own copy by signing up on my website.
06.19.09
Could you make a $70 million mistake?
Ten years ago today (June 19), the Associated Press reported that “A comma in the wrong place of a sales contract cost Lockheed Martin Corp. $70 million” (from the St. Paul Pioneer Press, June 19, 1999).
Later that year, on September 30, 1999, preliminary findings about the disintegration of the Mars Polar Lander indicated that the disaster was caused by poor communication: One team used English units while the other used metric units for a key spacecraft operation.
These two incidents have one common thread:
Communication errors can cost businesses and taxpayers a lot of money.
That’s why I was frustrated to read the blog post “Good grammar might derail your career.” The blogger claims that it doesn’t matter if you use the right form of “its” or “it’s”: Just let the reader figure it out. Further, the author insists: “Why do we need to spend our brain power learning the rules of grammar if it is not interesting to us? Why not focus on what we like?”
This reminds me of a letter I recently received as a board member of our homeowners’ association. Because the board was contemplating a smoking ban in public areas of our condo grounds, we asked our owners to share their thoughts with us. One young smoker said:
“I do not wish the scents and the smoke of burning tobacco to build up and to linger inside. Smoking inside my home or in another enclosed space would cause me, by default, to inhale far more smoke and for a much longer period of time than smoking outside subjects me to…I recognize that other people, especially non-smokers, would not want tobacco smoke drifting into their home; for that matter, I don’t want it inside my own home either! …complainants have a very simple, direct solution available [when I am smoking on my deck]: shut the door or window.”
I think this smoker’s startling conclusion that everyone else must adapt to his smoking behavior is similar to the blogger’s demand that the reader should figure out what the writer means. The smoker demands that neighbors retreat indoors and shut their doors and windows so he can smoke at will. The blogger wants the reader to substitute the right words and put in the appropriate punctuation because she doesn’t want to do this work herself.
Both arguments annoy me. Now it is MY job to avoid secondhand smoke by sweltering in a hot condo with no breeze possible? To punctuate someone else’s writing? Such poor writing will cause me to derail at the error and have to backtrack to correct the sentence, then read on. That takes more of MY time, and quickly, I will give up because it is so irritating.
I believe that the writer is always responsible for the message–all of it. If I want readers to understand and act on my writing, I must give them a quality document that they can read in the shortest possible time and can comprehend instantly. If I’m sloppy with my language, the best outcome I can expect is that readers will eventually stop reading my text. The worst outcome is that my errors may actually cost money, or worse, lives.
(The responses to the blog mentioned above seem mostly critical of the blogger’s position. And, by the way, we voted unanimously to ban smoking in common areas of our property.)
06.04.09
One-hour free class (video) on LinkedIn
One of my “peeps” in one of my groups on LinkedIn shared her one-hour free videotaped class on LinkedIn for job seekers, presented recently at the Science Museum of Minnesota. Caroline Melberg, an expert in social media, explains LI in simple terms. Even though I am an experienced user, I still learned a lot from her video. (Fortunately, it’s divided into 4 sections of about a half hour each). Please let me know what you think!
I’m back
I have not written for awhile due to “life on life’s terms” issues. I’m back.
04.26.09
Do you know of an online family scheduling system?
I know I can count on you gearheads to help me! Our family needs a software program that can help us manage ongoing home care for a family member. I know there’s a program out there that allows people to log on and choose times to visit, to schedule work shifts, to see the grocery list to help with purchases, etc., to leave messages for the whole group, etc. I saw such a program awhile back, but alas, we didn’t know that we’d be needing it to coordinate a large family effort like this, and it went right past me (as does much of life).
Please let me know if you know of such a useful program. We’d really appreciate it!
Bette